President Donald Trump has decided to postpone the State of the Union Address until after the government shutdown is resolved. Part of me hates that, while part of me recognizes that sometimes the grownup in the room has to step forward and take charge. That's leadership.

Since Speaker Nancy Pelosi (D-California) first hinted that she might dis-invite Trump from delivering the annual address in the House Chamber, which is certainly her prerogative, I have strongly advocated for an alternate location for the speech. I went so far as to suggest a stadium rally featuring hamburgers, corn hole tournaments, fireworks, and country music. It might have made great theater but would not have been what is best for the country.

Anyone who has raised kids understands that at some point backing away is necessary. Going tit-for-tat with a child seldom brings about the desired results and usually exacerbates the situation. Trump is not backing down on his demand for funding for a border wall. He is holding fast to his convictions. That is really what all of this is about.

Some political pundits are disappointed that Trump will not stand up to Pelosi on this. I get that. But this showdown is over border security and nothing else, and we cannot allow the focus to become clouded. Stay focused.

There are much history and tradition in the State of the Union Speech that would be lost in a football arena. Pelosi has already made history in being the first ever Speaker to deny a president permission to deliver that speech in the House Chamber. Moving the speech to another location would cheapen the occasion and put Trump at the same vindictive level as Pelosi.

By delaying the speech, Trump appears more presidential, keeps the focus on border security and keeps the State of the Union a dignified and time-honored event that is held where it should be held in the House Chamber. History will recall Pelosi for tinkering with that tradition and not Trump.

Good call, Mr. President.

Barry Richard is the host of The Barry Richard Show on 1420 WBSM New Bedford. He can be heard weekdays from noon to 3 p.m. Contact him at barry@wbsm.com and follow him on Twitter @BarryJRichard58. The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of the author.